Eve - Find the blessing
My name is Eve and I am a 57 year old woman living with active breast cancer. I have been fighting for 7 years now and will continue the fight.
Cancer has blessed me with freedom...freedom from Agoraphobia and Panic disorder. I am no longer a prisoner in my home and afraid to live life...thank you, cancer.
Yes, cancer SUCKS but it was dealt to me genetically so I might as well get some good out of it.
My mom started preparing me at 18 as her mother and sister had breast cancer. So, at 18, I got my first mammogram...and learned how to perform self breast exams. My mom was diagnosed with colon cancer at 45 and passed away at 49. I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 49 - I was not that surprised.
I never did the why me - I just forged ahead removing everything female in my body. At times, it's weird..am I a female? Am I a male? What the hell am I? I am a beautiful baldish pink haired woman living flat and fabulous! My hair will not be grown back as I am to old for bad hair days and I love being "baldish".
I learned from my mom how to go through this disease with humor and not worrying about what others think. My humor has always gotten me by but more so now. If we can't laugh at ourselves at times, something is wrong.
It's not easy for any of us to go through this but with groups like Flat and Fabulous we have sisters to show us the way.
Don't be ashamed of your scars..you earned them and they are your badge of courage and honor.
Don't be afraid to be yourself and let your free spirit fly.
Don't be afraid of being weak at times..it'ss ok to ask for help or say I am tired and need time for myself.
Don't be afraid to use the cancer card every now and then for your benefit...lol.
I know there are many that do not agree with what I am saying..but we are all different and we all handle things differently. We can agree to disagree.
But because of the blessing of cancer..I am free to go wherever I want without fear and I am living my life to the fullest everyday! At 57, I am the coolest Grandmother around with pink hair and tattoos. I walk around the house and wherever else I can topless...why not? My husband loves me with tits or without...I am a lucky woman!
Yes, cancer has taken away so much from me but it has also given me so much.
So, my advice? Forget the foobs, forget reconstruction...live for you and not what society wants us to do...be proud of your journey and your flat chest...and most of all...LIVE your life, find the blessing, and have fun!